This is my very first post about parenting, and in it, I want to share what I believe is one of the most important and fundamental keys to becoming a good parent. Just a little disclaimer—I’m also a student of life, and this is my first time being a mom. So, please don’t take everything I say as absolute truth, but rather as reflections and lessons from one fellow learner to another. Many people think being a parent is just about raising children—feeding them, sending them to school, and giving them a good life. But for me, it’s much more than that. I call my approach Conscious Parenting—a term I created to describe 'the way we raise child with intention and awareness'. It’s about guiding a little human to grow into a strong, kind, and responsible adult with a healthy mind and heart. Not just meeting their physical needs, but also nurturing their emotions, thoughts, and future.
Conscious Parenting: A Gentle Approach to Raising Strong, Kind Humans
Growing up in an Asian family, many of us are familiar with a certain way of parenting—especially from the baby boomer generation. Love was always there, but it wasn’t always shown through words or open conversations. Many parents cared deeply, but they didn’t always know how to express it clearly.
When we were kids, our feelings were often not talked about.
Most of our moms spent their energy thinking things like:
“What will my child eat tomorrow?”
“Are their grades okay?”
“Where should we go this weekend?”
But rarely did they pause to ask themselves:
“How does my child feel when I do this?”
“What’s the most thoughtful way to guide them through this moment?”
This is why I feel called to talk about Conscious Parenting—a term I like to use to describe a more intentional, mindful way of raising our children.
It’s not just about meeting their physical needs.
It’s about preparing them to be strong, kind, and emotionally healthy adults.
So, how does Conscious Parenting implemented?
Starts with awareness. It’s realizing that being a parent is a responsibility—not something that should come with expectations of being “paid back.” We guide and support our children because it’s our role—not so they’ll owe us anything later. If they grow up to be loving and grateful, that’s a beautiful bonus.
It is also about letting go of the urge to live our dreams through them. Our children aren’t here to complete our unfinished goals or to make us happy. Instead, our role is to help them build strong values—to know right from wrong, grow their empathy, and learn responsibility and discipline in a loving way.
The most importantly, it means helping them stand on their own. We give them tools like emotional intelligence, motivation, and vision, so one day, they can walk their path with confidence and kindness. For example; when our child is hungry, we don’t just feed them, we gently teach them how to find their own food. Teaching them values, purpose, emotional awareness, empathy and curiosity in their early life is more important than teaching them ABCs, Mathematics, or Musics.
A little writer’s note:
Why am I writing about parenting?
Because I’ve come to realize just how much I love being a mom. Through my journey—filled with little experiments, mistakes, and beautiful moments—Not only I taught my children things, but also I've learned so much, not just about parenting, but about my myself too. Trying to be a better parent has helped me reconnect with my inner child, rethink old habits, and even apply new perspectives in life. It’s been healing, eye-opening, and truly life-changing.
So I’m sharing these thoughts in case they resonate with anyone else out there—another parent, or even just someone curious about this journey. I have so many things I’d love to share, I’m already breaking it down on my little notebook. I hope I can write more of useful stuff and you’ll also feel the happiness in this little corner of reflection and growth 💛
See you in the next one!